Part III
Part three was more practical for me. I like the title “Win or lose together”. How to handle disagreements is certainly something worth thinking about over and over again. I’m sure I can take some of the advice with me and hope to take it to heart in the future, even if it’s not always easy, such as how to handle disagreement when it arises, because you don’t want to be nagging all the time. Shetty’s approach to dealing with disagreement is probably easier if both parties know his ground rules for handling a problem as a team. If your partner isn’t aware of this specific team approach, you won’t get far.
I liked the idea that there are three sides to an argument, and I will try to keep that in mind. Or that if we agree, we both win, but if one wins, we both lose. But that also can get very one-sided, actually.
And I fully agree that one aggressive or passive-aggressive comment is enough to wipe out twenty acts of kindness.
If you are currently in a separation process, Rule #7 seems like a good guide and supports your process with valuable ideas and thoughts, such as the part about redefining your value. It reminded me of the first part about solitude and the power you find in being alone to build your strong personality.
After reading the three parts, I realized that the book can be a guide depending on what point in life you are at. That’s probably why some parts don’t really speak to us because they don’t affect us at the moment.
I don’t think I gained much knowledge from part 4. Anyway, I think you can only gain new knowledge or guidance from the different parts of the book depending on where you are in life and where you need advice at the moment.
On a final note, I would say that it is difficult to discuss such a guidebook in a group of people you don’t know as it can get very personal.
