If you’ve ever:

1. Been told that you’re “too intense"
2. Felt dissatisfied with your accomplishments, no matter the significance
3. Been asked to relax or take it easy
4. Felt like your personality is the problem

....this book is for you.

Psychotherapist and former on-site therapist at Google Katherine Schafler wants to get one thing straight: your perfectionism isn’t a problem, it’s a gift. It’s what makes you so brilliant and successful in the first place. And like any power, it just needs to be harnessed.

In The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control, Schafler outlines the five types of perfectionists – the classic perfectionist, the angry perfectionist, the Parisian perfectionist, the procrastinator perfectionist, and the messy perfectionist – and shows you how to manage each form of perfectionism by combatting self-punishment and embracing self-compassion. You’ll learn:

Why society makes women feel guilty about their perfectionism, unless it conforms to gender roles

What we should appreciate about each type of perfectionist, as well as how to heal yourself from toxic self-talk

How to achieve adaptive perfectionism, rather than maladaptive perfectionism, and why the discourse around perfectionism is so negative

Managing your perfectionism doesn’t mean eradicating it, but rather, becoming aware of the core impulses you experience, and then consciously responding to those impulses. With Schafler’s advice, you’ll be able to finally tap into your power without letting it rule your life.

Remember, your perfectionism will never go away – and that’s a good thing.